Identity, longing for an identity leads to othering. It is our psychology, our desire to belong, being recognized in a group. Think of belonging to group of all beings; everyone, every being is my tribe. Have love, kindness and compassion for every being. It is hard but it does start with you, how you drive your own value, what makes you happy. It often is creating happiness for others. Just like hate, kindness and love is cyclic and often more rewarding and durable than regret and worry that often follows a hateful action. We all will die, create happiness and love in the time we have, reduce suffering and those actions will find their way back to you. Change your mindset from acquiring material gains as a source of happiness to reducing suffering. Choose your time wisely.